Alternatively, have you ever seen a woman with a good man who loves and respects her? Think about the rage you feel living as a Black man in a country that has been and is systematically discriminating against and killing you and your community. If your woman caught you texting three other women after you were just telling her how much you love her and being with her, does that not warrant anger/attitude?
There’s an "epidemic of invisibility" throughout Hollywood, according to a diversity study on film and television released last year by the Media, Diversity and Social Change Initiative at the University of Southern California's Annenberg School for Communication and Journalism.
Before you go off or catch an attitude, ask yourself: Is there a better way to say this? He may be more likely to listen, and if he doesn’t hear you out, then he lacks communication skills and not someone you should bother with anyway.
If you say “I don’t need a man,” remove it from your vocabulary immediately. Black women have the tenacity, intelligence and dedication to carry themselves and whole families on their backs, but that’s not how it’s supposed to be.
What if we started thinking of solutions, instead of just the problems?
Because, as a people who have historically received so much hatred, we, Black women and men, so desperately deserve love and respect.