Hey Nice Guy and Fuckboy, I wanted to ask you guys about Tinder.
I've been dating my boyfriend for a year now, and we have a very solid relationship.
He listened, paid attention and was very affectionate to me.
I couldn’t understand why he would act this way, but still be on the dating site all the time. He got really defensive, giving excuses and saying it was way too early for this conversation.
He might not see his behavior for what it is, but this is how it's being regarded from the outside. I've done it, but my other wasn't significant, and we'd MET on the damn thing. What we can explore, though, is he's still swiping left and right, at least from a practical perspective.I think you should take his behavior very personally — not because I believe it's shitty for him to be on Tinder, but because it is shitty for him to be half-showing you.He's trying to skew the power of balance in the relationship, and that's not cool.Dear Bummed, While it seems like a reasonable question, to him it felt like you were talking about exclusivity.I often recommend waiting to talk about that when you are ready to sleep with him and depending on age, you may need to wait longer.I don't doubt that he loves me, and he doesn't do anything else to make me feel insecure about our relationship.But what's the point of talking to these chicks on Tinder? Cheers, Not a Trump fan Hey there, Not a Trump fan. Fortunately, though, I'm Canadian, and this election doesn't impact me nearly as much as it would impact you. You wanted blunt, so I'm going to try my best to do so, despite my apprehension for hurting your feelings. Considering your political inclination, you don't seem like a dumb person, but you're certainly acting that way in your relationship.In order for me to be 100 percent OK with it, I was hoping he'd be down to show me the conversations he has with girls, so we could laugh about it together.He won't do that, though, which makes me think he's doing something inappropriate.He told me we should head our separate ways and I haven’t heard from him since.I apologized and told him I wasn’t trying to force him into a relationship, I just wanted to know what was going on.