Again, that distracts you from focusing on yourself. Even if you just want a promotion, that's still a sh*t ton of work and focus needed to get there. If you're flying off to Cuba with your flavor of the month instead of hustling, your mind is clearly elsewhere. If you lie to the guys you date, you're taking a shortcut to the land of zero respect. As soon as you experience the high his attention gives you, you crave it more and more.Boredom motivates the pursuit of new goals, and being single motivates us to better ourselves. All of your lies will be out in the open soon enough. You find yourself choosing this man you just met over your best friends because you need that attention and require the uplifting validation he gives you.Nobody will argue that the high you get after an amazing date isn't awesome But when you're prioritizing someone you just met over your friends and family, you're swimming in dangerous waters.Be careful how often you leave your best friend in the dust for a guy you just met. He might not even be around anymore when all those truths you've been covering up start to come out.If you're the type of woman who's always in a new relationship that never lasts, and you always say you're crazy about each other, you're just the woman who cries "wolf." Do this enough times, and people will just stop caring about your dating life.If your friends are rolling their eyes and predicting you'll be in yet another failed relationship instead of being happy for you, it's a clear sign they're picking up on your destructive patterns.He will catch on eventually, and call you out on it.
You shouldn't need anyone else to make you feel whole.It's OK to be harsh if you're getting a helpful message across to someone you care about.So, in that spirit, here are seven signs you should definitely not be dating anyone: If you're telling guys you're a personal trainer when you're really a receptionist at the gym, or that you're a paralegal when you're really a legal assistant, something's not right.Do you find you don't enjoy hanging out with him as much if there's no alcohol involved?If you're always suggesting dates that involve drinking, you might want to switch it up.If you're unhappy with where you are in life, you're not self-motivated. One thing's for sure: You'll likely feel anxious quite often.If this is the case, your ability to truly open up to a guy you're dating will be severely inhibited.You're fabricating a better reality for the sake of his perception of you, rather than owning up to who you really are. If he's crazy about this contrived version of you, you're simply living a fantasy.Perhaps you want him to perceive you in a certain way, and lying gives you ego-boosting power because it allows you to be viewed in the positive way you desire.We all know that woman: You know, the one who always jumps from guy to guy and never takes a break to just be single and focus on herself for once. She's the one with low self-esteem, and she isn't exactly pleased with her current situation in life. She uses validation from men to distract herself from her sh*tty reality. Maybe you just need someone to help you understand why it's important to boycott men for a while. That means you likely have several self-destructive tendencies (like substance abuse or pathological lying). No matter how into you he seems to be, it will never last. Because you don't know how to be happy without male attention, which means you obviously don't love yourself.