Indeed, I do not think we can make a biblical case for a girl and a boy going out together alone on a date just for fun or for making friends. Someone may ask: But how do you know it is God’s will for you to marry someone whom you have not had a long time of consistent dating to get to know very well?If not, how could you enter into a relationship with a goal of marriage?My answer would be: how do you know it is God’s will for you to marry someone you have got to know very well by a long time of consistent dating?The point is, it is impossible for you to know if it is God’s will for you to marry someone until you are actually married to the person.we see how naturally a secret kind of affection produces mutual love.
In any case the authors appear to dissuade commitment as they immediately list 4 pluses and 8 minuses for commitment dating!
According to them, there are four levels of dating: “group dating,” “couple dating,” “consistent dating” and “commitment dating.”“Couple dating” is defined thus: “… It may be a one-time date, or they may date occasionally.
However, neither one is committed only to the other.
The church, moreover, does not have any biblical warrant to arrange marriages. I would define courtship,—in distinction to dating,—as activities between a man and a woman with the goal of marriage in view.
In other words, it involves a man and a woman going out together as a couple with a stated or understood goal of marriage.